Being a new dad, I find myself in a lot of new situations meeting people I wouldn’t have otherwise met and having conversations I wouldn’t have otherwise had. They tend to lead me to some interesting adventures.
Two weeks ago, I was in a big box baby store. Alone in the diaper aisle, I was completely lost and looking for guidance as I try to narrow down my options on baby wipes. I was blown away at how many options there are for one simple task, which ones to get and in the end, if any of it really matters anyway. I considered the input from another guy who looked a little more seasoned than I holding a kid who was about a year. Evidently they were working through his honey-do-list while mom was enjoying some alone time. As we roamed the store, he gave me some pro-parenting tips. When the conversation turned to life and health, he completely unraveled.
“I wasn’t always like this. When my wife and I got married I was 21 and in much better shape. I put my family and career first, health second.
Fast forward to today, I’ve been 50-70lbs overweight and the past 16 years, struggling to keep it off. Over time my health has eroded so much that when I sleep, I need to be connected to a CPAP machine because occasionally, my body just decides to stop breathing.
Since my knees hurt when I climb, we moved into a single story house. The older I get, the harder it is to reach my laces, all of my shoes are slip-on.
On top of that, I can’t even sit down or get up without holding onto something for support. They make these comfort fit toilets that sit 2″ taller than most, it’s been a game changer. I’ve failed at every diet I’ve tried and every gym I’ve joined. Now I just live with it.”
At 40 years old his life is just getting started, he’s trapped in a failure cycle and he just lives with it because for every obstacle, there’s a workaround. As a professional coach, I know there are things he can’t see now that he won’t be able to avoid later.
When his son is old enough, he’ll need to teach him how to ride a bike. But he won’t be able to run next to him fast enough to teach him how to balance or to catch him when he falls.
He can’t see his grandchild who someday, he won’t be able to hold because he can’t bend over and pick her up off the floor. Or that dance at her wedding he won’t get because he won’t live long enough to make it.
I didn’t tell him that. I couldn’t and it wouldn’t have solved his problem anyway. As we approached him with a thought.
Life’s a bell curve. You’re born, it peaks and then you’re dead. No matter what age you are, you never think you’re over that hump. That drop can be short and fast or long and slow, there’s no guarantee how much time you’ll have. The only guarantee is what you do now will determine how you live 20 years from now.
Movement is life.
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COO & Master FitCoach, Koko FitClub